Why I Want You To Tell Me “No” On The Dance Floor
Tell me “no.” For my sake as well as yours, turn me down. I don’t enjoy being rejected, but the momentary sting is far…
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The Myth Of “Just Follow” – & Why It’s Wrong
Before I started leading, I knew how hard I had to work to be able to follow well. And I knew, because my dance…
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Dear Followers: A Thank You Letter
Dear followers, Thank you. Perhaps we’ve danced numerous times, perhaps we’ve only danced once, perhaps you even turned me down. Perhaps you’re far more…
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What I Learned By Asking Men If They Want To Lead Or Follow Bachata
“Do you ever ask men to follow?” the Social Dance Community editor asks me. “Those who I know follow, yes, and some men ask…
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Creativity And The Dance Role Paradigm
Increasing numbers of social dancers are questioning the traditional ideas of dance roles. Yet we still don’t have a consensus about what they should…
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Dear Leads: A Thank You Letter
Dear leads, Whether you’re experienced or new, nervous or confident, practically a stranger or one of my best friends, leading me in socials or…
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Breaking Out Of Gendered Roles At NYC Zouk Festival
It’s been 10 days since the last night of NYC Zouk Festival, but I’m still riding high. There was plenty to praise this event…
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Dear Leads, Please Dance To My Level
I get it: you’ve spent ages mastering these beautiful moves. They look great. They go great with the music. And they feel great. Except…
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Gendered Roles In Brazilian Zouk: An Interview With Bruno Galhardo
Bruno Galhardo is an internationally renowned and beloved Brazilian zouk dance instructor and performer. When I went to my first real zouk event, the…
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America’s First Queer Latin Dance Festival
What’s all this noise about gay dancing? And why should we care? Even if you don’t care about fabulous, innovative dancers both up-and-coming and…
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