Dancing With a Weird (But Fairly Mild) Injury

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Last week, I sliced the tip of my left index finger off with a bread knife. Luckily, it wasn’t serious and didn’t require stitches or anything, but it hurt (and still hurts) with any kind of pressure.

While great for getting me out of chores like washing dishes, missing a fingertip makes social dancing a little bit difficult.

However, it’s been interesting because it’s forcing me to really communicate with my partners and set boundaries.

I don’t condone dancing if you’re seriously injured and need to rest and recover (check out Brielle’s amazing article about what to do if you’re injured for that conversation). But some injuries or hurts won’t stop you from dancing completely. A few years ago, my good friend fractured her knuckle from getting kicked in the hand and was in a hard cast for a couple of weeks. She was still able to dance because the hand was immobilized, but she had to be clear and firm about what she could and couldn’t do.

Here are a few things I’m implementing through this somewhat bizarre and fortunately fairly mild injury.

Set boundaries

Be clear up front about what you can and want to do.

When someone asks me to dance, I say “Yes, I hurt my finger though so I can’t use my left middle and index finger.” And I show them. Then I make sure when they take my hand that I don’t touch them with my hurt fingers to reinforce the idea.

My friend is four months pregnant right now (I know that’s not a weird injury!) and she’s doing the same thing. When people ask her to dance, she says “Yes, but I’m pregnant so please don’t do multiple spins because I’ll get dizzy.”

Setting boundaries is super important for a safe and successful dance. Rachel goes into more detail about this in her article on how to teach consent.  

Take a knee

Sitting out is fine. It’s okay to say no. I was social dancing the other night and I danced with someone who kept squeezing my hands. I tried to explain to him the situation and keep my injured fingers out of the dance, but to no avail.

So the next time he asked, I just said no.

I think it’s important to reiterate over and over again that it’s ok to gracefully say no if you don’t want to dance a particular dance at any point. I injured my back last year and really couldn’t dance, but I still went to social functions because I was running them or just wanted to go and hang out. Because of that, I got really good at saying no and not feeling badly about it.

I used to feel so guilty every time I said no to a dance, even when I was injured. I know a lot of people, leads and follows, who feel that way and will say yes even when they don’t want to or can’t  dance. So I’ll say it again, it’s okay to say no and it’s okay to get told no, especially when there’s an injury involved.

Use it as a way to improve your following or leading

My friend with the knuckle injury said that being in a hard cast actually improved her following. Since she couldn’t really feel any of the signals through the cast, she had to rely on other senses to follow.  She said it made her pay closer to attention to what leads were doing and really watch them to see what step was next.

Besides improving her following, she said it also made her more aware of what she was doing with her arms, especially when transitioning to closed position. She didn’t want to bash her lead’s arm with the cast, so she made sure she was really staying in her lane.

Leading or following, having a hand semi out-of-commission is forcing me to be more creative with my movements and try to find more moves that I can do with just one hand.

Magna Gopal & Alex – Salsa – Caption this Dance 🙂

Caption this dance. So far, I've got:Wifi DanceBluetooth SalsaSalsa Flu.Salsa MimingWhat's yours?———————-Met Alex Αλέξης Τσιτουρίδης from Greece this weekend in Istanbul at the Istanbul Dance Festival 2018. He was in my workshop on Lead & Follow Fundamentals where I talked about the importance of connection and the numerous ways we can send and receive signals. Well, we put that to the test for two entire songs, and successfully, I might add. hehehNothing needs to be forced when your communication is clear, and you listen attentively to your lead/follow.I won't say it's an easy task with Alex Αλέξης Τσιτουρίδης or anyone, but even when I'm physically connected to my lead, I'm paying just as close attention.I encourage everyone to pay closer attention to your partner and see how much more you can execute, how much more fun you can have, and how much more connected you can be. :)Who wants to try this with me next? 😉 Thanks to Ilya & Kirill of Social Dance TV for this clip!#magnagopal #mpoweredwithMagna

Posted by Magna Gopal on Wednesday, April 4, 2018

I tried dancing with no hands, but I’m not there yet with my following skills…

 

 

 

 

 

2 Comments

  • Abbey Plotkin says:

    Hi Georgia. Hope your injury is healing. I just had back surgery 2 weeks ago but I have ALWAYS set boundaries with guys because A. I’m OLD and it’s much easier to say whatever the hell you want when you’re old. And B. I’m OLD and when I learned Mambo from Eddie & Maria Torres a million moons ago, only the PROS (of whom there were VERY FEW) did multiple spins and you didn’t have to be an OLYMPIC dancer just to get up on the floor. So, I have always told guys don’t do a million spins and TAKE IT EASY!!! I can’t WAIT to get some PT & get back on the floor with all those nice, respectful guys who LISTEN and lead me easily and WELL!!! Best of luck to you!

  • Abbey Plotkin says:

    p.s. I’m going to KILL Magna Gopal!!!! I can barely follow WITH hands!!! Never mind with NO hands!!! She is OFF the HOOK!!!! One of my FAVORITE, female dancers!!!! But I HATE you, Magna!!! I’ll just have to live with my jealousy and come back as you in my NEXT life!!!! lol

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